Self control
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Men who
control themselves usually boss the job, no matter what it may be.
Thought Process of a person forms the major course of action for any
human in this world. What you are depends on the way you think and the way you
think defines your attitude which is how the world is going to judge you.
What Position is hold in an organization is not the priority. Be a
leader of the responsibility you have on your shoulders, success will follow
you.
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Self
control does not indulge in hatred, envy, jealousy, fear, revenge or any
similar destructive emotions.
Hatred, envy, jealousy, fear and the likes are part of the imbalanced
mindset. This ends up destroying relations wherever you go. Controlling your
thought and enacting in the manner which makes you grow strong and tough from
heart will lead to self control ultimately suppressing your negatives and
projecting the strengths and your potential.
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Self
control does not allow over joy.
Joy, a synonym for every human’s happiness is the output or the result
of having control on the thought process of a person. Over-joy is makes you go
out of your control and hurt the other person. An act of self control does not
allow over joy but the longevity of the happiness you gain would be to a large
extent.
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Lack of
self control
Does a drunkard know where he is? What is he doing? And whatever is does
is right? The best example for the lack of self control is a drunkard. You end
up creating a mess among relationships in your organization, family etc.
Forming opinion before studying
the facts
It’s easy to
comment but it’s very difficult to understand a situation and give a right knd
of comment. Be a person who can deliver the best opinion and which can inject
into other’s mind and be of good use.
The steps to be
followed for giving a right kind of opinion:
1) Know
the fact:
Knowing the
fact is the first and the foremost step before you start framing an opinion of
a situation. Question arises as to how to know a fact?
The eyewitness
is the best source of the facts of the study. Concluding with the words of the
eyewitness is not the right step. You consult people who are a part of the fact
and know what exactly has happened or what is the exact case.
2) Know
the possible conclusions:
Now that you are aware of the fact, you consult the experts to know what
would be the conclusions they draw from the facts of the case. In other words,
you put yourself into the shoes of the others and try to know what possible
conclusions would arise of the given fact.
3) Drawing
up your opinion
Your
knowledge, your belief should be put into use taking references of the
conclusion drawn by others. This would give the best of opinions available for
a given fact.
Habit of spending
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Self discipline allows you to balance your diet
and spending habits.
Earning money is difficult, contrary to that spending money is very
easy. Self discipline allows you to have balanced spending habits. Self
discipline can be rooted out from Self control. Controlling your thought
process makes you disciplined and that is when you think twice before you take
up any step, be it anything.
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What is thought control?
Before we get into defining what is thought
control, lets know what would mean by the word Thought?
Thought is the
flow of the feelings that a person have in his mind. Feelings can be of any
kind. Clarity of thought would be achieved only when such flow of feelings from
your mind are put out in a sequential, related manner which would make meaning
to what you want to convey.
Thought control
is defined as to have proper channel for the flow of thought to bring out the
feelings of a person in the right way and in its right note such that you
convey what is essential and that which matters to one given situation.
Place in your own mind, through the principle of auto suggestion, the
positve, constructive thoughts which harmonise with your definite chief aim in
life and that mind will transform those thoughts into physical reality and hand
them back to you as an finished product.
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When you deliberately choose the thoughts which
dominate your mind and firmly refuse admittance to outside suggestion.
Every person
is right with his own opinion or conclusion that he derives from a fact. But
that should end up suppressing the opinion of others.
If you
consider your thoughts, you are right but when you take into considering of
another persons thought from his angle, he is also right.
We should
always keep in mind the fact that domination ends in destruction of a relation.
Take into consideration every persons fact, work in a team and this team would
derive what would be the right kind of conclusion.
In other words Admit the suggestion which comes from outside. This can
be achieved on when you are broad minded and when you have control over you
thoughts. You are exercising self control in its highest and most efficient
form. You are the sum total of your dominating or most prominent thoughts.
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It is very important that more than positive
comments refusing negative thoughts in to mind is very important.
Allow comments
which are positive in nature. Negative comments have the power to destroys the
credentials that you have as your assets. Self control allows you to filter the
positive comments to negative comments and the right kind of though flow would
be directed into your mind.
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Lack of self control - habit of talking too much. It requires self
control to become a good listener.
Be a good
listener, only then you can frame the best available opinion and give the best
output required in any situation. Lack of Self control results in too much of
talk. The disadvantages of talking too much is
a) We
reveal the facts to a wrong person who could be in a position to take advantage
of it and conclude in negative enactment.
b) It
destroys the goodwill of a person.
c) Wrong
words come out of mind disturbing the thought control and thought process.
d) Ultimately,
ends in destroying the understanding among a group and that is when the
differences arise.
Retaliation
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I can get you to do, whatever I wish you to do.
Retaliate in a right manner. This will make you get your work done the way
you had planned. This can be linked to the thought process and thought control
which brings out the right kind of words.
Right kind of words brings out consensus in the discussion. This
ultimately brings you to do what the other has to do.
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If I wish
your friendship extend friendship.
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Patta kalile padum ketta Kudie kedum. Like is lIke
A best example for Organized planning:
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One of my boss told that he woke up in the
morning at 5.00am but remain lying on his bed
up to 6 am. He would recall everything to be done on the particular day.
He made some auto suggestions for things to be done on that day.
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Whenever he plans for a trip, he sits in the car
before he starts and recall for 30 minutes, everything to be done during the
trip.
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This gives him the organized knowledge to
succeed the whole day and all the winning topics to the trip.
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Our desire should be reserved in our heart and
channeled through organized channels/canals whenever oppurtinuity arises. I
said like river water because river water has the habit of moving.
Channelized thought process brings
you to achieve what you desired to. River water always have the habit of
moving. It tends to maintain its clarity and purity when compared to a stagnant
water.
Never become stagnant at any point of time. This world gives you
opportunities to explore your talents and bring out the hidden potential to the
world to appreciate for what you are.
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Self control is like a shutters of a dam. Ths
shutters will be risened to allow water to flow out of the dam only to attain
the definite chief aim.
Put in the
required thought in a given situation. This would give clarity and consensus
among the group of individuals. Its like a dam which controls the level of water
and achieves its definite aim.
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Weekly once you can watch a movie on your T.V
but you cannot spend daily 2 hours before T.V.
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A personality of the person will be manifested
by self control.
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Once a
lady asked me, Sir you knew many things. But why you didn’t come up in your
life? I didn’t have answer then. But I have now. “ I don’t have self control”.
Self analysis
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If you are not able to achieve a single goal,
start try to help others.
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Keep smiling
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Be interactive
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Try to mingle with others.
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Do not challenge and bet with others.
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Do not declare your goals or wishes in a proud
manner.
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Be humble to pronounce your desire before
others.
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Do not blame any person on their face .
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Advise them diplomatically to do the job in the
correct manner.
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If you
want to advice anybody cool off for an hour from the time of incident.
Obedience
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Are you obedeient? Or pretend to be obedient?
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Obedient in heart!
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You will not forget, if you are obedient!
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You will fulfill each and every thing.
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Obedient is a thought control process.
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A good parents, teachers, school, friends and
living area defines ones obedience.
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Obedience is a vessel filled with water.
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Obedient to God
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Obedient to one self
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Obedient to Society.
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If your young life is not formatted with obedience
the present life will have lot of ups and downs.
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you find
that you have a big gap between you and your peer group. How to rectify this?
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How to get out of the guiltiness from this situation.
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The solution is here : Do the basics as a school
boy do!
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Do properly until you get success and get go
with your peer group.
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Pray Daily to achieve the goal.
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Exercise/Play
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Do your homework for everything for work and
living.
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Eat your food in 5 intervals
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Every day, morning complete a task and feel
happy during the rest of the day.
Enactment
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Are you waiting for things to happen?
